Suicide

Suicide is the biggest killer of men under 45.  Whilst death by suicide can occur because of severe psychological illness, acute psychological stress, or someone’s predisposing temperament and genetic vulnerabilities, suicide can happen to anyone. Most people who feel suicidal do not actually want to die; rather they don’t have any hope for a different or improved future and so decide their only option is to end their life. 

SIGNS TO LOOK OUT FOR IN YOURSELF OR OTHERS
These are not exhaustive,and some people will show no significant signs.

• Changes in behaviour eg mood swings, sleeping/eating patterns, becoming angry, negative, depressed
• Out of character reckless behaviour, eg  giving away all possessions, increased use of drugs or alcohol, excessive spending
• Social withdrawal
• Lack of energy
• Neglecting grooming and personal hygiene
• Suddenly appearing very calm or relieved after a period of depression
• Settling affairs and saying goodbye
• Talking about suicide or dying

IF YOU HAVE THOUGHT OF SUICIDE

• Talk to someone – a friend, your GP, a helpline
• Be around other people
• Go to a safe place such as a friend's house, a Samaritans drop in centre
• Try not to think about the future – just focus on getting through today
• Remember drugs and alcohol are not a solution and may make you feel worse
• Do something you usually enjoy

HOW TO HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH SOMEONE YOU BELIEVE TO BE SUICIDAL
It is not the case that asking about suicide precipitates the action of suicide.  Rather it shows the person you genuinely care, are interested in their welfare and want to help. Use simple, direct questions in a non-judgmental, non-confrontational way.

• Ask – have you thought about suicide? Be direct
• Listen to the response
• Keep talking to the person telling them they are not alone and you want to help
• Follow your instinct
• Ask if you can assist them to access help and support by calling a family member, the emergency services, a helpline or their GP
• If you believe there is an immediate risk do not leave the person alone if you are in the same room, but do be mindful of your own personal safety
• If you are talking to them on the phone use another phone to let the police know

BEREAVEMENT BY SUICIDE
A suicidal person believes that those close to them will be better off without them. This is not true. It is really tough to resume normal living after a death by suicide.  It has the ability to undermine, overwhelm, devastate and destroy leaving behind many questions that can never be answered.. This can take a real toll on your mental and physical well-being and you will develop feelings of guilt.  The suicide of a loved one can also mean you consider suicide yourself, known as suicide ideation. You may want to seek help from your GP or a counselling organisation.  There are also specialist organisations that can help, see below.

You may like to read this blog from LawCare peer supporter Trish Thomas.

CONTACT US
Call LawCare’s free, independent, confidential helpline on 0800 279 6888 for immediate support, email us, access our webchat service via our home page or apply for peer support.