Tips and information on stress

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We can all get stressed at times. We all react differently to pressure and not all stress is bad – it can be motivating. However, serious and prolonged stress can be very upsetting and cause serious physical and mental health concerns.

Stress is one of the most common reasons for calls to the LawCare helpline. Many working or studying in the legal sector have a driven, perfectionist personality that makes them more prone to stress. They often work long hours in pressurised situations, and believe they should always be in control. Feeling unable to cope with work can be particularly difficult.

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Symptoms of Stress 

  • Sleep deprivation: This is a vicious circle: worries about work lead to lack of sleep and lack of sleep makes it difficult to perform well at work.
  • Physical changes: Headaches, skin complaints, frequent colds, aching muscles and digestive problems are often indicators of stress.
  • Drinking and smoking: Many lawyers turn to drinking and smoking to escape from the pressures of everyday life. However, alcohol is a depressant and smoking creates a new stress: the craving for a cigarette.
  • Eating: You may find yourself comfort eating or skipping meals.
  • Mood swings: You may become irritated and frustrated, get very angry one minute and feel fine the next. Other people may complain that you are short-tempered, selfish and difficult.
  • Panic attacks: These can happen suddenly, for no clear reason. You may feel sick, short of breath, shake, sweat and experience a sense of unreality, as if you’re detached from the world around you.

Managing Stress

It is important to take steps to control stress before it overwhelms you. There may be little you can do to change external pressures, but you can learn how to deal with them. it is better for your health and career to deal with the situation and change things than to struggle on.You are not alone – support is available.

What's causing you stress?
The first stage in managing stress is to identify the source and common issues so that you can plan a strategy to tackle it.

Common issues identified by our callers include:

  • Job insecurity and lack of status
  • Impossible targets
  • Unsupportive colleagues/manager or having no friends at work
  • Long, antisocial or inflexible hours
  • Lack of support or supervision
  • Overwhelming responsibilities or difficulties at home

Stress diary

Keeping a stress diary over two or three weeks may help you to identify why you are stressed. When you feel that you’re not coping, write down how you’re feeling, including any physical symptoms. Note what you’re doing and have just been doing. You can then start looking for clues to your stress. As you work through the diary, you may realise that something that appeared insignificant at the time could be a major stress trigger and you need to make changes.

Talk about it

Don’t stay silent. Legal professionals, in particular, may feel it’s a sign of weakness to admit they aren’t coping, but it’s better to address problems early, before they get out of control.

Talk informally to a trusted colleague or your supervisor if you feel they might be helpful. Refer to your diary notes of triggers for stress or aspects of work you are finding overwhelming. Many callers find it difficult to tell their employers or chambers that they are stressed, fearing they will be unsympathetic. But when the stress escalates and perhaps becomes a problem, many partners, colleagues and supervisors say they had been unaware of the situation and would have offered support if they had known. Make sure they know.

If the stress is largely a response to your work being criticised, make a list of those criticisms and ask for a meeting with your supervisor to clarify what you are doing wrong and how you can improve.

Analyse their responses. Are the criticisms justified or unfair? If justified, work out how to address the issue and request support and training if appropriate.

  • Tips
    • Try to be objective: ask yourself why you are letting things annoy you
    • Talk to someone you trust
    • Prioritise: don’t over commit; learn to say “no” or “I can’t do that until next week unless I drop something else”
    • Use your full holiday entitlement at work; or book time off from chambers, take a lunch break and short breaks during the day
    • Do one thing at a time; break complex tasks down into manageable chunks
    • Eat healthily, exercise, avoid alcohol and smoking    
    • Panic attacks: try to keep calm, slow your breathing, wait for it to pass
    • Think through your options: should you change job within the legal profession or consider a different career entirely?
  • Crisis Control

    When you feel the stress building, stop, breathe deeply and slowly, and work through this list:

    • Will this still matter next month?
    • Would I feel better about this if I broke it down into smaller sections and tackled it a piece at a time?
    • Must this be done now, or can I delay it until I am feeling better about it?
    • Can I pass this on to someone else?
    • Am I trying to do too many things at once?
    • Would talking to someone about this make me feel better?
    • Do I need a holiday/good night’s sleep before I tackle this?
    • Don’t procrastinate – the more you worry about it, the more time you have lost
  • Burnout

    Burnout is recognised by the World Health Organisation as an occupational phenomenon rather that a medical condition, and results from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed.

    Those who are experiencing burn out are likely to feel:

    • Low energy or exhaustion
    • Increased mental distance from their job, or feelings of negativity or cynicism related to their job;
    • Reduced professional efficacy

    If you have burnout you will need a break from work to recover, or you may already be off work. Make an appointment to see your GP, and tell someone at work about what is happening, it doesn’t have to be your line manager, someone in HR, another manager or Mental Heath First Aider or equivalent can help. You may want to seek private counselling  or your firm may have an Employee Assistance Programme or private healthcare you can access. With the right support you should be able to return to work.

  • Treatment for stress

    Many people find counselling, CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) and yoga helps with stress. Mindfulness can also help calm the mind - check out the Headspace website or app for more information.

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A Lawyer's Guide to Wellbeing and Managing Stress

A Lawyer’s Guide to Wellbeing and Managing Stress, written by LawCare volunteer, former lawyer and psychotherapist Angus Lyon, is designed to help lawyers to manage stress. It will help you to understand how to recognise the signs of stress in yourself and others, so that you can take action and manage it before it becomes excessive.

Angus Lyon

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